Posts Tagged ‘self-help’

• How to create a new self – Deepak Chopra

  Date: 2011.02.10 | Category: Video | Response: 0

  From: Fora.tv

• Surrounded by negative people?

  Date: 2010.03.21 | Category: Reading | Response: 0

  As you starting to focus on thinking positive it’s easy to get discouraged by the negative people around you. Well, that’s not a problem any more! Here is the simple but yet effective sollution in an audio file. (LINK)
  You get to hear a woman who’s been fed up with the negative attitude of her best friend and how everything finally turns around for her. It’s mind blowing simple and at the same time hilarious, learn and laugh!

• Self-Respect

  Date: 2010.01.03 | Category: Reading | Response: 0

  Today I found a nice blogpost by Tejvan Pettinger at PickTheBrain.com.
  Here is a teaser, the introduction and the first 5 of the 10 very good tips.

  How to Develop Respect for Yourself
  Self-respect is a fundamental for a great life. If we lack self-respect we will be insecure and strive to be someone we are not. To develop self-respect means to cultivate the self confidence to deal with whatever life throws at us. The following are some ways we can improve our self-respect. Remember, self-respect comes from an inner belief and not an egoistic feeling of superiority.

  1. Be True to Yourself
  There is great social pressure from parents, work and society to become a certain person and to achieve certain things. It is a pressure hard to detach from. But, a real self-respect only comes from being true to our inner calling. It is important you have faith in your own values and remember what is important to you. Just because other people think you should behave in a certain way, doesn’t mean they are right. Everyone needs to follow their own path. Even if others don’t respect your decision it is important that you do. Just ask yourself whether you come into the world to please Tom, Dick and Harry or live your own life?
  2. Learn to Handle Criticism
  We are sensitive beings. Nobody likes criticism and when we are criticized, either directly or indirectly, we feel bad about ourself – even if the criticism is not justified. To maintain a sense of self respect, we need to learn how to deal with criticism. Don’t take criticism personally. Look at it from a detached perspective. Maybe it is false, in which case we should ignore it. If their is some truth, we can use it to develop our character. However, it is important not to take criticism too personally. Just because we are not very good at a particular task, doesn’t mean we need to lose our self respect.
  3. Look After Your Appearance, Without Being a Slave to Fashion
  Our appearance is important. It can give us confidence or it can make us feel awkward. Take care of our appearance; dressing smart for the right occasion gives us self confidence. At the same time, we don’t want to be the slave of fashion trends. Dress for your own benefit; don’t dress in the expectation of pleasing others and receiving complements.
  4. Avoid Jealousy
  Jealousy of other people’s success is a common way of losing our happiness and self respect. Jealousy is simply envy of other people’s success. We feel miserable that we cannot enjoy their success. Sometimes it can even lead us to knocking the other person. If we follow this path of jealousy we will definitely lose our sense of self respect. When we are constantly comparing ourselves to others, we are saying our self respect depends on being better than others. But, the truth is, there will always be some people more successful than ourself. The trick to lasting self respect is to be happy through others success. We should never feel that other people’s success in any way diminishes our self worth.
  5. Remember your Motivation, Not Results
  Sometimes we work with best of motives and the best of intentions only to be disappointed by the outcome. The problem is that we equate our self respect to outer displays of wealth, success and social standing. It is the nature of life, that things will not turn out as we hoped, but, it is a mistake to link our sense of self worth to the achievement of external targets. Self respect comes when we value our attitude to life and other people. Even if things go badly don’t lose your self respect. Work with the best of intentions and gain your self respect from that.

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